The Prom Question: Why Didn’t I Go to Prom?
prom season triggers a myriad of memories and expectations. For some, it’s an anticipated highlight of the school year, a commodified event meant to celebrate a milestone. Yet, for others, like myself, prom isn’t just a missing memory—it’s a question of personal choice and experience.
My Prom Journey: A Different Path
As a sophomore and junior, I visited prom. The experience left me more disillusioned than excited. Instead of attending, I chose to drive to Cleveland with two friends to see The Doors perform. This alternative seemed a more worthwhile use of my time, reflecting a shift in my values and priorities.
Through my senior year, I attended prom but only with a few close friends and one of my sweet cousins who was just a year younger. We danced and talked about my plans for graduation and the future. Despite others’ social interactions, my cousin brought a unique touch to the night, hugging me and expressing gratitude. Before saying goodbye, he wished me well for the future. I left prom with a sense of relief and a fulfilling memory.
Adventures Beyond Prom
Physical high schools, summer schools, correspondence learning, and early graduation were part of my high school experience. These varied experiences kept me busy and engaged, and a prom at a specific school wasn’t interesting to me. Instead, I embraced weekend dancing with friends from various cities, making memories outside of the typical school dance setting.
My opinion on prom isn't a blanket rejection; it's a personal decision based on my busy schedule and activities in the 1970s. While I don’t have any fundamental aversion to prom, it seems that we were too engaged with our own pursuits to darken the door.
The Decision Not to Participate
It’s worth noting that my high school experience included two batches of students. One graduated early in 11th grade, and the second class had their prom before graduation. I didn't join either, as I wasn’t interested in those events. This decision was based on a clear view that not every social event had to meet my approval.
If you are not part of the cliche crowd—cheerleaders, top athletes, and the likes—prom might not be the best choice for you. These groups are often targeting the most popular and appealing students. The cost-benefit analysis of attending for those who are perceived as less central to the social fabric can be questionable. Prom is just another school event with better decorations, and if you're not a part of the top cliche, it might be a waste of time and money. Attend a party afterwards if that's what you want, but a glorified school dance might not justify the expense for everyone.
My experience and journey through high school were fascinating and varied. Whether it’s dancing all night, dealing with early school timelines, or simply not following the crowd, it’s about finding what works best for you during those formative years.
Conclusion:
The event of prom can mean different things to different people. While it might be a glamorous and memorable occasion for others, for me, it was a choice based on my values and the activities that brought me joy and fulfillment. The choice not to attend prom was a conscious one, made with the understanding that every person has their own unique path and priorities.